My friend and fellow blogger Rockin' wrote a great post a while back about societal assumptions in sexual language. She does some really insightful deconstruction of some of the ways people talk about sex; you should take a look. It got me thinking about the way people think about certain, sometimes non-sexual activities.
Let's be honest here - how many people who have actually tried it think shower sex is a good idea? (I'm assuming that you are of average strength and flexibility, and don't own any of those "shower sex" handles and steps to make life easier) I've tried it at least a dozen times now, and it's difficult, it's often dangerous, and in most showers there isn't enough room to get in a pleasurable position anyway. When we take showers together now, we might cop a feel, or at most go down for a very quick bit of oral sex, but mostly we just... shower together. It's nice to have someone who can scrub your back for you, you know? And letting him shampoo my hair and massage my scalp is absolutely divine. I love to be able to reach over and get a naked hug while we're showering. Trying to kiss without drowning is silly and awesome.
But sex? We'll wait till we're out of the shower.
I had the perfect shower for sex in one of the dorm rooms I lived it. It was about 6 foot long and had the metal bar like a handicap toilet stall around three walls. Now though I have a tiny shower I barely have room for myself much less enough hot water for any alone fun. Sex in my shower now would probably be very lethal.
ReplyDeleteI am totally jealous of those dorm showers! I've lived in 2 different dorms - one where the showers were too small for shower sex, and one where they were huge, but there was nothing to hang on to. Surprisingly, the latter was worse to try to have sex in.
ReplyDeleteMemo to self - when designing bathroom in dream home, build in "handicap" bars to enable safe shower sex. :D